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Here’s another tip on building self-trust. The thing that really kind of hit home for me was I couldn’t make building self-trust based on future outcomes. I’m not going to say, “I’m going to lose 170 pounds,” because who knows if it’s going to happen exactly that way?

What I do have control over and where I could start to build self-trust was in my day-to-day actions, the things I could actually do and follow through on and begin to document.

What if you said, “I’m going to lose 50 pounds this year,” and after losing 45.8 pounds, you felt fantastic and that’s where you stopped? All that work you did day to day is where the self-trust was built, not in losing the 45.8 pounds.

The weight loss was a byproduct of you doing the work. When I started to realize that, I stopped making goals based on outcomes and more on what I could actually do today in the moment and take action on. [Read more…] about How to Build Self-Trust, Part 2

Let’s talk about some dos and don’ts when building self-trust. The first don’t that I want to throw out there is don’t commit to something without reflection — period. Most of us will say we’re going to start doing things — start the Couch to 5K program, start tracking our food, start going to the gym.

We just say we’re going to do these things; we don’t pause and reflect. One of the things I do with my coaching clients is I ask them to pause before committing to a goal and score themselves on a scale of 1 to 10 on the likelihood that they’re actually going to do it. What this does is it forces them to reflect on their previous behaviors and really kind of assess whether what they’re agreeing to is realistic. [Read more…] about How to Build Self Trust, Part 1