Let’s talk about some dos and don’ts when building self-trust. The first don’t that I want to throw out there is don’t commit to something without reflection — period. Most of us will say we’re going to start doing things — start the Couch to 5K program, start tracking our food, start going to the gym.
We just say we’re going to do these things; we don’t pause and reflect. One of the things I do with my coaching clients is I ask them to pause before committing to a goal and score themselves on a scale of 1 to 10 on the likelihood that they’re actually going to do it. What this does is it forces them to reflect on their previous behaviors and really kind of assess whether what they’re agreeing to is realistic. [Read more…] about How to Build Self Trust, Part 1
I want to share with you something that you may struggle with, that I know I, personally, have struggled with, which is a feeling of not being justified in feeling happy, or not feeling like you deserve anything good.
Think about a relationship you have — say a boyfriend, a husband, a wife, a significant other. If they promised that they were going to be faithful and you caught them in bed with somebody else, and they said they would never do it again, they promised up and down, then you found them in bed again with somebody else, how many times would that have to happen before you didn’t believe them?