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One of my coaching clients said to me, “I want to be bad ass.” I love her. She’s awesome. I am privileged to have the best coaching clients in the world. She’s in her 50s, and she has decided she is going to embark on weight training because she wants to reshape her body. My challenge to you is to be bad ass.

Find something that scares you, that seems out of reach, and tackle it. I always tell women, “If you want to lose weight, do cardio.” You can do cardio to lose weight. But, if you want to reshape your body, love it naked, love it in a bathing suit, [Read more…] about How To Become a Bad Ass

Previously, I’ve talked about some dos and don’ts of building self-trust — specifically, don’t commit to anything without reflecting and rating your likelihood of success on a scale of 1 to 10, and do commit to doable actions you can start to implement right away, rather than focusing on the outcome. Today

I want to tell you about something that was huge for me in building self-trust, which was creating [Read more…] about How to Build Self Trust, Part 3

Here’s another tip on building self-trust. The thing that really kind of hit home for me was I couldn’t make building self-trust based on future outcomes. I’m not going to say, “I’m going to lose 170 pounds,” because who knows if it’s going to happen exactly that way?

What I do have control over and where I could start to build self-trust was in my day-to-day actions, the things I could actually do and follow through on and begin to document.

What if you said, “I’m going to lose 50 pounds this year,” and after losing 45.8 pounds, you felt fantastic and that’s where you stopped? All that work you did day to day is where the self-trust was built, not in losing the 45.8 pounds.

The weight loss was a byproduct of you doing the work. When I started to realize that, I stopped making goals based on outcomes and more on what I could actually do today in the moment and take action on. [Read more…] about How to Build Self-Trust, Part 2

Let’s talk about some dos and don’ts when building self-trust. The first don’t that I want to throw out there is don’t commit to something without reflection — period. Most of us will say we’re going to start doing things — start the Couch to 5K program, start tracking our food, start going to the gym.

We just say we’re going to do these things; we don’t pause and reflect. One of the things I do with my coaching clients is I ask them to pause before committing to a goal and score themselves on a scale of 1 to 10 on the likelihood that they’re actually going to do it. What this does is it forces them to reflect on their previous behaviors and really kind of assess whether what they’re agreeing to is realistic. [Read more…] about How to Build Self Trust, Part 1

I want to share with you something that you may struggle with, that I know I, personally, have struggled with, which is a feeling of not being justified in feeling happy, or not feeling like you deserve anything good.

Once I’d lost the weight, I remember sitting for a few minutes and realizing I had this sensation inside of me, and it was pure joy. I was watching my kids, life was good … and I was worried that the other shoe was going to drop. Maybe you feel like that sometimes — like everything in your life is going well, and so you’re wondering when the next bad thing is going to happen. [Read more…] about Why Do You Self-Sabotage When You’re Happy?